Self-victimization is Never the Answer

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Depending on someone for acceptance and love is really terrible, especially for housewives I feel. They cook, clean, and slog throughout their lives thinking that their family will praise them. A typical Indian housewife will leave her job, make numerous sacrifices, just to devote her life to her in-laws, kids, and husband. She is secretly looking for praises and accolades. I'm sorry but when she doesn't receive what she expects, she blames the very family for not acknowledging her sacrifices. 



This is utterly wrong. 

Ladies, you can choose the path of your life, but I do cringe at the women who, in their 40s, 50s, and 60s, cry their heart out because they do not receive attention from their families. We all need to have something in life that keeps us busy. It's not necessary to make money to prove your worth, but all women need to have something where they can devote their time. In India, even middle-class families have started employing 2-3 maids for household work. So what do you do with so much time in hand? Please, folks, learn something new, focus on your health, work on something, make money, or simply keep yourself busy at any damn constructive work. But please don't indulge in self-victimization. It's really a huge burden for busy husbands to entertain their wife or mom and for kids to do the same for their mom who cribs all the time. 

I want to mention here that all women are not the same, there may be a few women whose feelings do resonate with mine and they are already utilizing their time well. However, I have seen most women from the previous generation, who are in their 50s and 60s now, cribbing about one thing or the other. Even the present generation is heading towards the same path.  



I really request everyone here to motivate our women in the house to do something good with their time, rather than just watching TV or using social media. Their brains are capable of much more than they think. They just need a push from the family.

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